A Parent's Guide to
Resilience in Children and Teens:
Here is a 10-point plan
to help you manage stress. All of these ideas can lower stress without doing
any harm. None are quick fixes, but they will lead you toward a healthy and
successful life. The plan is divided into four parts.
Note: You will start with Part 1 below and then complete the next three parts
before you submit the complete plan. It should only take 10-15 minutes.
Note: You will start with Part 1 below and then complete the next three parts before you submit the complete plan. It should only take 10-15 minutes.
When you read over the plan, youll notice that you can come up with several ideas for each point. PLEASE do not think you should try them all. This plan is supposed to help you reduce stress, not give you more. Try out some ideas, then stick to one or two ideas for each point. Dont choose an idea just to impress someone else.
Part 1: Tackling the Problem
Point 1: Figure
out what the problem is and make it manageable.
Two ideas can help you manage a lot of work.
Point 2: Avoid things that bring you down.
Sometimes we know exactly when we are headed for trouble. Avoiding trouble from a distance is easier than avoiding it up close. You know the people who might be a bad influence on you. You know the places where youre likely to get in trouble. You know the things that upset you. Choose not to be around those people, places, and things that mess you up.
Point 3: Let some things go.
It's important to try to fix problems, but sometimes there's nothing you can do to change a situation. For example, you can't change the weather, so don't waste your energy worrying about it. You can't change the fact that teachers must give tests, so start studying instead of complaining about how unfair they are. You can't control what admissions committees do behind closed doors, so after you've sent in your applications, just let it go. People who waste their energy worrying about things they can't change don't have enough energy left over to fix the things they can.
My Personal Stress Plan for Teens
Now that you have read about lots of ways to manage stress, you may be ready to create a plan for yourself. Just check off the ones you think would work best for you. There are spaces for you to write down your own ideas.
Excerpted with permission from "A Parents Guide to Building Resilience in Children and Teens: Giving Your Child Roots and Wings." Copyright © 2006 Kenneth R. Ginsburg, MD, MS Ed, FAAP, and Martha M. Jablow. Published by the American Academy of Pediatrics. All rights reserved.