A Parent's Guide to

Building Resilience in Children and Teens:
Giving Your Child Roots and Wings


Table of Contents


Part 1: Resilience and Stress

Chapter 1 Why Resilience
Chapter 2 Stress and Its Effects
Chapter 3 Ingredients of Resilience: 7 Crucial Cs

Part 2: Competence and Confidence

Chapter 4 Getting Out of the Way
Chapter 5 The Value of Play
Chapter 6 Noticing, Praising, and Criticizing
Chapter 7 Thinking Clearly
Chapter 8 No More Lectures
Chapter 9 “I Get It!”
Chapter 10 Changing Behavior Step-by-step
Chapter 11 Shifting the Blame to Save Face
Chapter 12 Media Literacy.
Chapter 13 Not Being Broken
Chapter 14 Building Confidence

Part 3: Connection, Character, and Contribution

Chapter 15 Connection
Chapter 16 The Art and Importance of Listening
Chapter 17 Strengthening Family Ties
Chapter 18 Widening the Circle
Chapter 19 Some Cautions About Connection
Chapter 20 Character
Chapter 21 Contribution

Part 4: Coping

Chapter 22 Getting a Grip on Stress
Chapter 23 Taking Action
Chapter 24 Taking Care of Your Body
Chapter 25 Taking Care of Your Emotions

Part 5: Control

Chapter 26 Styles of Discipline
Chapter 27 Positive Discipline Strategies
Chapter 28 Increasing Kids’ Control
Chapter 29 Delaying Gratification and Trusting Their Decisions
Chapter 30 One Rung at a Time
Chapter 31 Not Everything Is Within Our Control

Part 6: When Resilience Is Challenged Beyond Reasonable Limits

Chapter 32 Extreme Circumstances
Chapter 33 Turning for Help

Final Thoughts

Just for Kids

A Preteen’s Personalized Guide to Managing Stress
A Teen’s Personalized Guide to Managing Stress



Excerpted with permission from "A Parent’s Guide to Building Resilience in Children and Teens: Giving Your Child Roots and Wings." Copyright © 2006 Kenneth R. Ginsburg, MD, MS Ed, FAAP, and Martha M. Jablow. Published by the American Academy of Pediatrics. All rights reserved.